My version of Reality

We all as human beings expect many things that we want to happen. However reality doesn't work in that way. The expectations can vary over different stages in life and occurs at different levels. It can vary from very small to very big. However, reality just takes over expectations. In some cases it might be the same as we expect and in some cases it might not be what we expect.  And if it happens in the same way that we want, we will be the happiest person in the world and the most gifted person.

When something does not happen in the way you want to, just think that ' Disappointments are God's way of saying 'I've got something better. Be patient..Live Life..Have Faith'. Don't worry. Things will go fine when the right time comes. You will be the happiest person in the world.

Each of us our own set of things to worry. Life just does not go smooth for 80% of the people. Its okay to mourn and worry for some time. But then most of us think is if we express our sorrow to some one, we will feel less burdened and as if our problems will just go away. But I don't think this helps. Not to sound harsh but most people around you are going to be selfish including me except some very very few people. I don't blame anyone for this.Its just human nature. So when you are going to express to someone, they might actually think about their own problems. Its literally a waste of time for you and the person you are approaching. So just think of it for sometime and try to find a solution to get rid of the problem in hand. According to me being independent means you can take care of your happiness, your sorrow, your well being, your environment and the way you accept things happening to you. And just think that you are a very tiny thing in the really vast universe. Its like you are just a very small drop of water in a really big ocean.

There is always a proportion of people who might like you at different levels. Some may really like you a lot, some might like you to some extent, some might like you to the extent that they can bear your presence and there will be some people who might never like your presence/ even you being in the same room might be intolerable for them. You can't expect everyone to like you. In my personal experience, I have seen these proportion of people of different kinds. After reading the book 'The Subtle Art of not giving a f*uck', I know my values for the people around me. So now i really know why/why not should i worry if somebody likes/dislikes me. Now i know i don't need to worry if someone says they don't like me on my face or behind my face. Now I know which relationships i should value and which not. Now I know sometimes its better to not care about their opinion if i don't value them in my life. 

Thanks a lot for the clarification by the author - Mark Manson.